this whole fantasy that oppressed = moral has to end. if your support for an oppressed group is contingent upon their being “good” and “ethical” according to your standards, then you do not support them. you fetishize them.
this is not about awarding human dignity to people who you think “deserve” it. this is about destroying the institutions and structures of power that allow for one group to take away the dignity of another group. dignity is a human right, not something that is awarded to or deserved by those who are “good.”
someone said to me today that “it must be really weird being the only boy in a class full of girls” and for a minute i was like “yeah, i bet it’s /really/ weird for that guy” until i realized she was talking about me